-by Mimi Rothschild
Sometimes we homeschoolers are so quick to defend our choice that we dismiss some real concerns. One of those is loneliness.
Schoolchildren can face some terrible problems with bullying, inappropriate relationships, or peer pressure, but the child who studies at home alone may truly face loneliness. Even if there are other
children in the neighborhood, they may be closer to one another from spending time together in school, and it can be hard for the homeschooled neighbor to join in and feel like a full part of the group.
Those of us with large families may find it hard to imagine that our children could be lonely. Still, the older sibling who helps care for younger children may not feel that the little ones are friends as
much as chores, however beloved. The young child with plenty of older siblings may not have a playmate who likes the “baby games” that are age-appropriate.
Both of these challenges can be met with homeschool groups and associations, church friendships, and community groups. Yet some parents, determined to make sure that their children don’t lack for peer group interaction, set aside their own needs so much that they end up lonely themselves. A parent who stays at home to teach the children can feel isolated. Mothers of infants often feel
starved of adult companionship, but once their children are older, they return to work or community
service and find themselves making new friends. Homeschool moms, lacking the PTA or the professional organization, can find that this isolation stretches out for many more years.
Some things to think about on this subject:
• Don’t expect loneliness. Sometimes we rush to fill our children’s time with structured
activities, when they actually would enjoy time on their own, or benefit from the opportunity to learn
to entertain themselves. Many of us have found that we have gained spiritual insights and growth from time on our own, and it can encourage creativity as well. If your children feel lonely, address it, but don’t go overboard on preventive measures.
• Don’t be afraid of loneliness. Our life experience as adults tells us that there are times in our lives when we have many friends, and times when we have few. Studying the lives of the people in the Bible shows us that God blesses people in groups and on their own. We even know that we can be in the midst of a group of people and still feel loneliness. Loneliness can be what God has planned for us at
some times in our lives.
• Don’t ignore loneliness. If loneliness is a problem for your child, or for you, talk about ways
to arrange more opportunities to be in fellowship with other people. Joining groups can be a solution.
So can inviting friends to visit, developing online friendships, or spending time in service to others.
Homeschool parents especially need to be sure not to neglect their spouses. Caring for children can
become so completely the focus of your household that your marriage takes a back seat to homeschooling, and that can easily lead to feelings of loneliness. Whether this is a time in your life – or your child’s life – when God has a plan for you that involves something you can learn from loneliness, or those feelings of loneliness are telling you to step out of your home and serve others or enjoy fellowship with others, pray for God’s guidance and follow His direction. Deuteronomy 31:8 reminds us, “And the Lord, He it is that doth go before thee; He will be with thee, He will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed.”
Police Stations Being Built in Public Schools
By Mimi Rothschild
The Detroit School District announced that they will increase police presence in public schools and even go as far as setting up mini police stations. While police officers and metal detectors are nothing new in public schools, mini stations are and they are the first step towards the convergence of prison facilities and public schools.
While on one hand it is good that police officers are around to keep children safe from the daily dangers of public school, but on the other hand having a police station inside a public school speaks volumes of the violence and chaos that takes place in public schools.
Why deal with public schools anymore? What’s next for public schools? Actual prison cells inside the school? It’s pretty ridiculous. Home schooling allows students to learn in SAFE environments where parents can instill values that are important to them. Also, home school students often outperform their public school counterparts in tests and grades.
Read more about police presence in public schools here.
Read about the benefits of homeschooling here.
The Boston Herald recently reported that over 500 illegal weapons were found on Boston Public School grounds last year. Is that scary or what? It gets worse though. The report also states that student assaults have jumped up from 13 percent from the previous year. Public Schools in Boston are no place for students to learn. Read some of the disturbing quotes and experts from the article below.
“No kid is going to be focused on learning when they’re focused on protecting their own life,” said City Councilor Stephen J. Murphy, chairman of the public safety committee.
“15-year-old India Jessamy described an environment at Roxbury’s New Mission High School in which weapons are the norm, from girls concealing butcher knives in Timberland boots to the boy who pulled out a gun last October and stashed it in a drawer between classes.”
“School isn’t about learning,” said Jessamy.
“For every weapon taken, there’s one that’s not,” said Brian Simoneau, attorney for the school police union.
How can any student succeed in such an atrocious and dangerous learning environment? These student are just trying to survive, no actual learning is taking place. Public schools can no longer protect students nor educate them; it is time for parents to pull their kids out!
What are the public schools like in your town?
Read the rest of this startling article on Boston’s Public Schools here.
By Mimi Rothschild
In 2007 it seems as if everyone is close to a child that has been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, but what exactly is ADHD/ADD? How do you know if your child is suffering from this disorder? How do you teach a child with ADD/ADHD, especially if they are homeschooled?
Learn the answers to all these questions and more in the helpful article below which I came across last night. Please let me know what you think! Thanks!
ERIC EC Digest #E569, September 1998
Defining Attention Deficit Disorder/Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD)
Attention deficit disorder is a syndrome characterized by serious and persistent difficulties in the following three specific areas:
Attention span
Impulse control
Hyperactivity (sometimes)
ADD is a chronic disorder that can begin in infancy and extend through adulthood. It can have negative effects on a child’s life at home, in school, and within the community. It is conservatively estimated that 3 to 5% of our school-age population is affected by ADD.
The condition previously fell under the headings “learning disabled,” “brain damaged,” “hyperkinetic,” and/or “hyperactive.” The term attention deficit disorder was introduced to describe the characteristics of these children more clearly.
Diagnosing ADD/ADHD
According to the criteria in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (4th ed., rev., American Psychiatric Association, 1994), to arrive at a diagnosis of ADD/ADHD, the clinician must note the presence of at least six of the nine following criteria for either Attention Span or Hyperactivity/Impulsivity.
Attention Span Criteria
Pays little attention to details; makes careless mistakes.
Has short attention span.
Does not listen when spoken to directly.
Does not follow instructions; fails to finish tasks.
Has difficulty organizing tasks.
Avoids tasks that require sustained mental effort.
Loses things.
Is easily distracted.
Is forgetful in daily activities.
Hyperactivity Criteria
Fidgets; squirms in seat.
Leaves seat in classroom when remaining seated is expected.
Often runs about or climbs excessively at inappropriate times.
Has difficulty playing quietly.
Talks excessively.
Impulsivity Criteria
Blurts out answers before questions are completed.
Has difficulty awaiting turn.
Often interrupts or intrudes on others.
Establishing the Proper Learning Environment
Seat students with ADD near the teacher’s desk, but include them as part of the regular class seating.
Place these students up front with their backs to the rest of the class to keep other students out of view.
Surround students with ADD with good role models.
Encourage peer tutoring and cooperative/collaborative learning.
Avoid distracting stimuli. Try not to place students with ADD near air conditioners, high traffic areas, heaters, or doors or windows.
Children with ADD do not handle change well, so avoid transitions, physical relocation (monitor them closely on field trips), changes in schedule, and disruptions.
Be creative! Produce a stimuli-reduced study area. Let all students have access to this area so the student with ADD will not feel different.
Encourage parents to set up appropriate study space at home, with set times and routines established for study, parental review of completed homework, and periodic notebook and/or book bag organization.
Giving Instructions to Students with ADD/ADHD
Maintain eye contact during verbal instruction.
Make directions clear and concise. Be consistent with daily instructions.
Simplify complex directions. Avoid multiple commands.
Make sure students comprehend the instructions before beginning the task.
Repeat instructions in a calm, positive manner, if needed.
Help the students feel comfortable with seeking assistance (most children with ADD will not ask for help). Gradually reduce the amount of assistance, but keep in mind that these children will need more help for a longer period of time than the average child.
Require a daily assignment notebook if necessary:
Make sure each student correctly writes down all assignments each day. If a student is not capable of this, the teacher should help him or her.
Sign the notebook daily to signify completion of homework assignments. (Parents should also sign.)
Use the notebook for daily communication with parents.
Giving Assignments
Give out only one task at a time.
Monitor frequently. Maintain a supportive attitude.
Modify assignments as needed. Consult with special education personnel to determine specific strengths and weaknesses of each student.
Develop an individualized education program.
Make sure you are testing knowledge and not attention span.
Give extra time for certain tasks. Students with ADD may work slowly. Do not penalize them for needing extra time.
Keep in mind that children with ADD are easily frustrated. Stress, pressure, and fatigue can break down their self-control and lead to poor behavior.
Modifying Behavior and Enhancing Self-Esteem
Providing Supervision and Discipline:
Remain calm, state the infraction of the rule, and avoid debating or arguing with the student.
Have pre-established consequences for misbehavior.
Administer consequences immediately, and monitor proper behavior frequently.
Enforce classroom rules consistently.
Make sure the discipline fits the “crime,” without harshness.
Avoid ridicule and criticism. Remember, children with ADD have difficulty staying in control.
Avoid publicly reminding students on medication to “take their medicine.”
Providing Encouragement:
Reward more than you punish, in order to build self-esteem.
Praise immediately any and all good behavior and performance.
Change rewards if they are not effective in motivating behavioral change.
Find ways to encourage the child.
Teach the child to reward himself or herself. Encourage positive self-talk (e.g., “You did very well remaining in your seat today. How do you feel about that?”). This encourages the child to think positively about himself or herself.
Other Educational Recommendations
Educational, psychological, and/or neurological testing to determine learning style and cognitive ability and to rule out any learning disabilities (common in about 30% of students with ADD).
A private tutor and/or peer tutoring at school.
A class that has a low student-teacher ratio.
Social skills training and organizational skills training.
Training in cognitive restructuring (positive “self-talk,” e.g., “I did that well”).
Use of a word processor or computer for schoolwork.
Individualized activities that are mildly competitive or noncompetitive such as bowling, walking, swimming, jogging, biking, karate. (Note: Children with ADD/ADHD may not do as well as their peers in team sports.)
Involvement in social activities such as scouting, church groups, or other youth organizations that help develop social skills and self-esteem.
Allowing children with ADD to play with younger children, if that is where they fit in. Many children with ADD have more in common with younger children than with their age-peers. They can still develop valuable social skills from interaction with younger children.
References
American Psychiatric Association. (1994). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (4th ed., rev.) (DSM-IV-R). Washington, DC: APA.
Suggested Reading
Bender, W. (1997). Understanding ADHD: A Practical Guide for Teachers and Parents. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Merrill/Prentice Hall.
Fiore, T. (1993). “Educational interventions for students with attention deficit disorder.” Exceptional Children, 60(2), 163-73.
Gardill, M. (1996). “Classroom strategies for managing students with attention deficit/ hyperactivity disorder.” Intervention in School and Clinic, 32(2), 89-94.
Hallowell, E. (1994). Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through Adulthood. Tappan, NJ: Simon & Schuster.
Hartmann, T. (1993). Attention Deficit Disorder: A Different Perception. Novato, CA: Underwood-Miller.
Reeve, R. (1996). A Continuing Education Program on Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. Reston, VA: Council for Exceptional Children.
Rief, S. (1997). The ADD/ADHD Checklist. An Easy Reference for Parents and Teachers. Reston, VA: Council for Exceptional Children.
Robelia, B. (1997). “Tips for working with ADHD students of all ages.” Journal of Experiential Education, 20(1), 51-53.
Schiller, E. (1996). “Educating children with attention deficit disorder.” Our Children, 22(2), 32-33.
Contact your local school psychologist, examiner, or personnel in charge of assessment and diagnosis in your school district for specific information and local programs.
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By Mimi Rothschild
Robert Jacobson, senior editor of eSchool News online, wrote an eye-opening article on virtual schools and discusses how virtual schools could dramatically transform America’s education system. Laboratories of Reform: Virtual High Schools and Innovation in Public Education, a new report from Education Sector notes that “Virtual schooling is driving the same sorts of transforming changes in public education as Apple’s iTunes has been producing in the way people collect and listen to music.”
Will virtual schools and online learning save America from public schools current abysmal state? Absolutely! The MorningStar Academy, a private, accredited online academy for home schooling students, is leading America into the new world of online education and preparing students for the Digital Age. The 21st century is much different than the 20th century; therefore, a 20th century approach to education (i.e. America’s public school system, traditional private schools, traditional charter schools) won’t prepare 21st century students for the 21st century workplace.
Home schooling using online academies is considered to be the best of both worlds. Many believe it is the best approach to educating the next generation of lawyers, doctors, teachers, bankers, scientists, engineers, technologists, etc. Because technology is easily accessible, other countries can be more competitive in the global village and evolving workplace. Home schooling online academies will prepare students for the 21st century workplace because students learn within the realms of technology and receive quality educations. Most public schools do not prepare students for the 21st century workplace; they’ve barely prepared Americans for the 20th century workplace and if they continue to operate without significant reform it will be the reason why the American economy cannot compete on a global scale in the years ahead.
To read Robert Jacobson’s article click here.